Since beginning my studies of the auric energy field I’ve been fascinated by how spiritual healing is applied in different cultures. At its most basic level energy healing is about one auric field touching another, allowing a pranic transmission from the more highly-charged person towards the one with a weaker charge. But the passing of spiritual energy requires a relational connection: chakra to chakra, understanding to understanding, and is far more sophisticated than a simple energy download.

If you are working within your culture-of-origin you already possess much of the social and relational understanding needed to connect with like-minded others. But if you leave your country, or if you need to connect to others from a different land, challenges in connection do occur.

Now that I am old enough to have had experience in several cultures I better understand one important mechanism: each culture possesses a consciousness matrix made up of social, spiritual, and cultural energy. To tap into a culture other than your own you must tap into the energetic consciousness of their unique matrix. Yui Wang first pointed this out to me, as we walked the streets of Tokyo, on my first visit to Japan. I had almost been hit by a cyclist coming up from behind me. I had expected him to be responsible not to hit me. He had expected me to feel him coming, to be aware of the space around us both, and to move out of his way. I didn’t move, and he almost hit me. “You have to feel the Japanese “grid” around you”, said Yui. “The Japanese cyclist expected you to “feel” him coming up from behind, and to “fit in” with him. It’s the consciousness of the village, and not of individual rights.”.

I began to experiment energetically connecting into the social grid in Japan, both personally and professionally. Sure enough, the connections with the culture had a specific experience to relational awareness. But I could also see that you needed to live in the new culture for a while in order to experience it. Both time, an intention to understand others, and experience in talking or working with local people was essential in order for the local social consciousness to gain access to your auric system.  This has recently started to happen here in Sabah, Borneo, where I recently moved. A few weeks ago I felt something “click” into my energy field.  Suddenly, I was in the flow of local life in a new and more pleasurable way. I was no longer stumbling around like a Western tourist; I was a fish amongst other fish. I felt I had somehow just become a citizen of the town. The local social grid had taken me in.

Of course it takes many years (including language acquisition) to truly understand any new culture. Expect this process to impact, or challenge, some of your long-held relational assumptions, such as what is polite and appropriate, personal boundaries, and what is expected from others. The hunter-gatherer Western societies are tremendously different to the rice-growing Asian consciousness, as many well-traveled authors such as Rudyard Kipling have noted. And in an evolving global economy understanding others as culturally different from you will become increasingly important. For those of us who are also on a spiritual quest, and seeking wisdom from other cultures, understanding their social energy grids will help us gain what we seek. Because if we expect someone from another culture to be like us, true connection will not occur. Personal and business needs will not be supported. Relationships will not deepen. And without strong relationships, we cannot heal and grow, learn and prosper, or enter into mutually beneficial arrangements.

There’s something very healing about a good rock song that celebrates our love of dysfunctional love affairs… it connects us with the human condition, and helps us make it through many a dark night of the soul. When such a song is combined with Juan Mann’s “Free Hugs” mission we have an unbeatable combo for the YouTube generation: the simple act of reaching out to other human beings and emotional background music. Sniff, sniff…

This video spawned similar events all over the planet, with young people heading out into the malls and the streets holding “Free Hugs” signs. Of course, hugging strangers for no profit elicited the social control grid to do a double-take and sadly, in some cases, harass the kids. But it’s a great beginning, to see a new generation beginning to awaken and make an impressive end run around the Main Stream Media (MSM). Awesome.

Enjoy the video, buy the song (Aussie Indie band, The Sick Puppies), and give someone a hug today. Or, play the song one night and reminisce about that obsessive love affair you had so many years ago…and sing along with the rest of us.

“None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free.”
-Goethe

The first and basic approach to Relational Energy Healing addresses the unconscious forces are at work in our lives, and in our relationships. We must deal with our personal and family issues systemically in order to truly solve our problems. Otherwise we keep repeating our personal or family patterns. Along with the psychological uncovering of these forces we must actively address -and change - the energy body (auric body, chakras, chakra cords) that is the underlying mechanism of human consciousness. The second layer of relational energy work is to understand that our personal and spiritual growth is evolutionary: that our lives proceed through earlier stages of development and build upon previous successes, while mitigating choices that have led to failure. In other words, that we learn and grow through our mistakes, and begin to weave those life lessons into the fabric of our soul growth. The third layer of relational work may appear more philosophical, but is essentially practical and deeply meaningful. It looks at the the elements of emotional slavery existing in an individual’s life, and how the unconscious acceptance of that slavery may color our relationship to self, to others, and to the outside world.
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One of the helpful concepts of mainstream psychotherapy is transference: the unconscious redirection of feelings from a childhood relationship to a current one. This knowledge is useful for Relational Energy Healing work because our focus is educating the infant mind (inner child) within us as part of improving all our personal relationships. Also, many of the spiritual ideals leading to gaining higher consciousness parallel this therapeutic education process of child becoming adult. It is an unrealistic fantasy that presupposes we can move from the infant self to a high level of soul awakening without first developing a functional adult self (see the extensive works of Ken Wilber). Despite being full of innocent promise, the infant mind is unprepared for the complexity and sophistication of the outer world. We must do inner - and relational - work in order to bridge our three inner psychic states of child, adult, and soul.

Transference is also where the infant mind within us projects or overlays infant-level needs and demands onto another person. Because the infant is natively narcissistic (self-orientated) rather than developmentally mutual (I/Thou orientated) it must attempt to force or seduce its will onto the mother (or “others” in the outside world) in order to survive. Two major strategies of the child consciousness are either assuming helpless cuteness (an evolutionary design to engage the mother and have her happily cooperate with the survival needs of the child) or the use of threats (tantrums, refusals to cooperate, withdrawal of love, etc). There are other strategies, of course, but it is seduction (“Give me what I want because I’m lovable.”) and coercion (“Give me what I want or you are in trouble.”) that are fundamental to the human psyche. Many of our adult actions with others are, in truth, actions taken by the infant within us, designed to seduce or impel the other to meet our real (or imagined) needs. Through these and other lenses the infant mind actively projects its survival strategies onto the other, with no regard for the psychic invasion that results.
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OK, first the good news: the G spot, named after Ernst Graefenberg, has been scientifically located by researcher Emmanuele Jannini, of the University of L’Aquila, Italy, after taking ultrasound scans of nine women who claimed to have experienced vaginal orgasms, and eleven who said they did not. The tissue of the G-spot, as most sexually-active individuals are aware, is noticeably thicker and has a different texture, on the front vaginal wall behind the urethra.

The bad news: not every woman has a G-spot, according to Jannini’s study. This only means that some women are restricted to clitoral orgasms (non-G spot women) and only G-spot women can attain vaginal orgasm.

More research is needed, say sex professionals, and a call has gone out for volunteers.

I know what you single men out there are thinking. “I knew it! It wasn’t me, after all!”

Before you ladies start sending the Italians feminist email rants about your sexual freedom, you might want to hold back a while. Let these people work. I just found out that this discovery was the side-product of a study going on to discover a “female Viagra”.

Apparently Viagra-like medications can affect female Skene glands and their level of PDE 5 (which research has shown accumulates around the G-spot), but if you don’t have a G-spot, the medication doesn’t work. Bad break, Pfizer.

So, what’s coming in the future, no pun intended? Well, the drug companies have recently created “Erectile Dysfunction” or “ED”, as a way to legally market their expensive drugs to men; look out for “Female Arousal Disorder” medications, no doubt making their debut soon. They just have to work out the science. Hopefully, they will do a better job than Eli Lilly did with Prozac.

I wonder if the new pill will be pink..